Today I Experienced One Of The Scariest Moments Of My Life Involving My Son.

Mothers, gather your children together and give them the biggest, longest, tightest hug you can give them. Fathers, do the same. Today, I experienced one of the scariest moments of my life and it involved my son.

So What Happened?

It started off innocently enough. Eugene left to pick up our school aged children after dropping myself and Danielle off at home after we picked her up from kindy. Danielle was set up in front of the television with Isabella to watch a my little pony movie and I went into the home office to do some admin.

I saw Blake coming through the door through the security camera monitor we have in the office so I called out to him. He came running into the office, a little puffed, saying he “ran home” excitedly and also upset that I wasn’t at his class to pick him up. When I heard him tell me he ran home, I looked at him confused and replied “from the gate?” thinking the home gate. Why would I think anything else? I sent him off to get out of his uniform and when I didn’t see Celine coming through the door, I assumed she’d gone off with Dad to his next job. Well, you know what they say about assuming, right?

One Of The Scariest Moments Of My Life

A few minutes later, I got a phone call from Eugene. This is where one of the scariest moments of my life occurred. Eugene was phoning to ask if I knew where Blake was! He was standing in the school grounds panicking with the headmistress of the school looking for Blake. Which confused me, because… Blake was home. But if Eugene hadn’t brought him home… who did?

"amummyslifenz" "scariest moments"I let Eugene know that Blake was home and he & Celine came home very quickly. We had a family meeting to discuss what had happened. Eugene got to the school and found Celine playing in the front playground. When he asked her where Blake was, she shrugged and said she didn’t know. She didn’t know where Blake was. She didn’t go to meet him at his class when she realised her parents were a little late to pick them up.

So they went to Blake’s class to see his he was there. There was a relief teacher there who didn’t even know what Blake looked like. They checked the sandpit and the back playground. They got the headmistress and others involved in looking. And finally, Eugene rung me. I knew nothing of any of this until his phone call.

We sent the girls away after the family meeting to talk to Blake about what happened. How did he get home? A friend’s parent drove him home. Which friend? Eden. Who is Eden? A boy in his class. Why did he leave school without Celine? He couldn’t find me. Why did he get in someone else’s car? Because it was his friend. Did he go anywhere other than straight home? Did anyone touch him? Was he hurt in any way? The questions went on and on and on.

More Fool Me

We eventually established that he was dropped straight off at our gate and came straight from school, safe and sound. So why was this one of the scariest moments of my life? Blake is 5. Just 5 years old. I thought he understood that he should never leave the school grounds without Celine or myself (or Dad if Eugene was picking him up). I thought he understood that one of us will ALWAYS pick him up even if we might on the rare occasion be a few minutes late, like today. It was something we had discussed before, when he first started school.

I thought he understood that he should never get into a stranger’s car even if it’s his friend, they are a stranger because Mummy & Daddy don’t know them. I thought Celine understood that she should go meet Blake at his class if I wasn’t there in time for the bell and I thought Blake understood that he should wait for Celine if I wasn’t at his class waiting for him.

Apparently, I thought wrong. Anything could have happened. Anything.


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13 Replies to “Today I Experienced One Of The Scariest Moments Of My Life Involving My Son.”

  1. Bless your heart! I can only imagine the fear you felt at all of horrible things that ran through your mind. Thankfully none of those horrors happened. You are right, hug them tight! This is a great opportunity to have a teaching moment, so, hug him, teach him, hug him, scold him, and repeat!

  2. OMG, I can’t imagine how you felt and what was going on in your head! So glad it was a happy ending and I’m sure everyone now understands where to go, wait or stay until family shows up.
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    1. Hopefully. I did get them to repeat the instructions this morning before we got out of the car to make sure they both understood. I also went in to see his teacher this morning.

  3. Yes, the world has changed. But, I certainly recall (with great relish, I might add), my normal (and unapproved) traipse along with our mailman as he delivered the mail. (While illegal, he did let me sometimes carry the posts to the mailbox by the door of some homes. He knew which ones didn’t have dogs!) How old was I when I began this exploration of my neighborhood? Barely 3 years old. And, I knew every single block and homeowner’s name of this 1 square mile village because of it. Which came in handy when I was older.
    But, I knew who was a “safe” companion and who was not.
    Just like I taught my kids (who cover 3 generations- X, Y, and Millennial).
    Oh, and I believe you should hug and kiss everyone every time- because we never know when we- or they- won’t be around.

  4. Yes, the world has changed. But, I certainly recall (with great relish, I might add), my normal (and unapproved) traipse along with our mailman as he delivered the mail. (While illegal, he did let me sometimes carry the posts to the mailbox by the door of some homes. He knew which ones didn’t have dogs!) How old was I when I began this exploration of my neighborhood? Barely 3 years old. And, I knew every single block and homeowner’s name of this 1 square mile village because of it. Which came in handy when I was older.
    But, I knew who was a “safe” companion and who was not.
    Just like I taught my kids (who cover 3 generations- X, Y, and Millennial).
    Oh, and I believe you should hug and kiss everyone every time- because we never know when we- or they- won’t be around.

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    1. I believe my oldest sister did something similar at not quite 2. Only it was to the dairy and the dog followed by her. A man picked her up and the dog led them both back home. Nobody even knew she was missing.

  5. OMG I would have been so scared and I just want to reach out and give you a big hug. But you did great by talking to him and I am sure it wont happen again. Because I also have a son who is 9 and he can’t walk back and forth alone because anything can and does happen.
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  6. I grew up in a different era, where, even at 5 , I walked the block to kindergarten by myself. And a parent would shoo their children out the door during the summer, telling them to go play and be home for supper. But times are very different now and I am grateful that all worked out well. And now you know areas that need to be addressed.

    1. At 5 I was walking to school and back by myself. But there were no roads to cross over to do it. We virtually lived in the same block. And tgat was nearly 30 years ago. Now, we live in a small relatively safe community but 5 is way too young for the distance and amount of roads we have to cross.

  7. I understand your concern! It reminds me of the time my son, age 6 at the time, got off the school bus but left his sleeping sister, age 5 on the bus? He never even noticed that she wasn’t tagging along behind him….the poor thing rode to the end of the bus route until the driver realized she was still on the bus! Thank God the driver did a sweep of the bus before leaving for the night!

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